The Power of TLC in Relationships: Talking, Listening, Caring
In today's fast-paced world, our relationships often become a bustling metropolis of thoughts, feelings, and opinions. And let's be honest – conflict is inevitable. Sometimes it’s just a minor bump in the road, while other times it can feel like a full-blown battle. But remember this: “Every kingdom divided against itself becomes a desert.” To keep our relationships from drying out and becoming barren, we need to practice TLC: Talking, Listening, and Caring.

Talk: Own Your Behavior

When conflict arises, it’s essential to take a step back and own your behavior. Reflect on your actions, words, and role in the conflict. Instead of pointing fingers and escalating the situation into an all-out revolution, explain your perspective calmly and respectfully. 

Start with “I” statements rather than “You” accusations. For example, “I feel hurt when…” instead of “You always make me feel…”. This subtle shift can make a significant difference, turning a potential argument into a constructive conversation.

 Listen: Truly Hear What the Other Person is Saying

One of the most vital aspects of TLC is listening. It’s not just about hearing words; it’s about understanding the meaning behind them. When the other person is speaking, give them your undivided attention. Avoid interrupting and truly focus on what they are saying. 

Listening is a powerful act of love and respect. It shows the other person that their feelings and opinions are valued and heard. By truly listening, we pave the path towards resolution rather than conflict.

 Care: Work Towards Resolution

Without caring, talking and listening might not lead to the desired outcome. Caring means genuinely wanting to resolve the conflict and find common ground. It’s about prioritizing the relationship over the need to be “right.”

Show empathy and compassion. Acknowledge the other person’s feelings and work together to find a solution that benefits both parties. Avoid turning the discussion into a power struggle. Remember, the goal is resolution, not revolution.

Using Essential Oils to Enhance TLC

As an Aroma Freedom Practitioner, I have discovered the incredible benefits of essential oils in fostering a calm and harmonious environment – perfect for practicing TLC. Here’s how it works.

The Aroma Freedom Technique uses essential oils and your own thoughts and memories to change the way you think about yourself and the world around you.  It can break down the internal turmoil that hinders the connection between you and the resolution.

Relationships thrive when nurtured with TLC: Talking, Listening, and Caring. By owning our behavior, truly listening, and working towards resolution, we can transform conflicts into opportunities for growth and deeper connection. Remember, a kingdom united in harmony flourishes, while a divided one becomes a desert. Let’s choose unity and cultivate a loving, supportive environment in our relationships.

Imagine a world where every conflict is met with calm discussions, where everyone feels heard, and where caring leads to collective growth. Let’s take the first step together – one drop of essential oil and one mindful conversation at a time. Contact me to learn more about how to make your world more harmonious.


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